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Current Family Law Developments in Holland
National Congress on the interest of the Child
A main event since our previous report of March 1999 was the three-day Congress on Children and the Right of Contact, organised by the Platform of Parent Organisations (SCJF) and the department of Justice.The venue was the town of Breda: opening day was June 24 and final day December 16, 1999. Participants were some 300 fathers. Professionals of the Child Protection Office and members of judiciary.
Opening speaker on the first day was Richard A. Gardner of Columbia University, New York who, delivered an extensive lecture on the Parental Alienation Syndrome that can be so devastating for father-child contact after divorce. lt was Gardners first public appearance in Holland. A longer article on PAS can be found elsewhere on this site; a book on PAS, edited by Joep Zander and with articles by Wim Theunissen and Rob van Altena, appeared in december 1999.
During the afternoon debate professor Gardner was especially pressed to answer Peter Tromp, on behalf of the Platform SCJF, stressed that courts and Child Protection Office should stop their present extensive way of psychological investigation into every recently divorced father in order to approve him for seeing his children. The term "the best interest of the child is undefinable and therefore meaningless. According to estimates of the father organisations up to 50% Of the divorce/separation children in Holland loose contact with the non-custodial parent: this involves 12000children per year as well as 7.500 fathers, 500 mothers and 14.000 grand-parents. Mia Meyers reported on a father-child contact pilot project in Maastricht. In 1998 a contact centre started mediating for cases where the father-child contact had been lost. In about 50% of these problem cases both parents agreed to cooperate with the project, in again roughly 50% of these 50% (25% of the initial cases) the contact was successfully re-established. Otto Vos MP remarked that "we must look for those means of maintaining contact that the judiciary is willing to implement". On the last congress day the minister of justice, who was on the speakers list, was at short notice prevented of coming; a speech on his behalf was delivered by mrs. Valensloot who conceded that the term "the best interest of the child", although the base for the administration of family law, is nowhere legally defined. In four successive panels telling remarks could be heard. "The best interest of is the child depending on the situation", "the interest of the child in that its interests do not become the issue of legal proceedings", "it is in the interest of the child that it does not dismiss his parents", "children's rights are now derived from the rights of educators". Peter Prinsen remarked there should not be a right of visit for one parent but both parents ought to have at all times unimpeded access to the children: "detrimental to children is not enforced contact but enforced withholding of contact". "ubi justitia deficiunt, ibi bellum: in divoree we can observe an interaction of war and lack of justice", "child protectors and judges oppose the interest of the child to the so-called self interest of the fathers who press for contact - that is why 1 hate the term 'best interest of the child'. Joep Zander cited a pre-printed form of the court in the Hague which makes it impossible for a child to choose for both parents,. "The issue is not the interest of the Child but existential situations i.e. the protection of relationships; the child cannot define the interests of the child therefore the interest of the child are defined by others who in doing so secure their own interests" Mrs. Truus Barendse (vice-president of the parents-platform closed the congress saying that she had heard many adults hide behind children. What authorities could is to protect rights. Other developments: The Platform SCJF (Collaborating Organisations of Customers in Juvenile and Family Law) receives now x government subsidy on a permanent base on the grounds of its representing 'government customers in this domain customers according to the current free-market terminology. Many fathers however positively hate being labelled customers. The Platform also sponsored the International Conference on the Deelaration of Langeac (text elsewhere on this site), held in Utrecht on November 26, 1999 with representatives of Holland, Belgium, Germany, England and Ireland. Mary T. Cleary (Ireland) spoke about her AMEN helpline for abused men: in two years time she received 5000 telephone calls for help. Liam O'Gogain (Parental Equality, Ireland) told that equal parenting is since 1997 a possibility in Irish law. Gerhard Hanekamp (independent, Germany) said that the new German law of July 1998 on parental equality is in practice sabotaged by judges and child protectors. Ghislain Duchateau (BGMK, Belgium) said that in Belgium there is little consciousness for parental equality. Since 1995 there is shared custody after divorce/ separation but many courts give single custody to one parent (guess which one) without particular reason. Julian Fitzgerald (independent England) told that when he wanted to stand candidate by election and went from door to door to collect the required signatures, 60% of those visited signed, among them many divorced mothers although he plainly explained to be in favour of parental equality. The other main father organisation, the Crazy Dads, held its annual national meeting in Bodegraven on November 28 with 175 participants. President Leo Bevaert stepped down after six years and was succeeded by Arthur Ross. The Crazy Dads, who started ten years ago as a group of fierce actions, have now totally changed their ways and concentrate on behind the scene influences. Although contact between father and child after divorce or separation is a legal right in Holland since 1990, the secretary for justice acknowledges that this right is very often sabotaged. In search for better ways of securing the law the secretary ordered an investigation of methods of enforcement as applied in surrounding countries. The report of this investigation (a booklet by mrs Brigitte Chin-A-Fat) was published in September 1999. lt also holds a summary in -English. The report recommends the development of alternative methods like mediation anti contact houses (so far unknown in Holland) and the possibility of criminal punishment, after the example of Belgium and France although it also rather stresses that the criminal punishment (imprisonment) in these two countries is in practice seldom applied and therefore ineffective (in Brussels a mother was recently condemned to 8 months imprisonment but only after having sabotaged 43 visits by the poor father) The Dutch government decided that sperm donors will keep their right of anonymity for another two years, after that the issue will be looked at again. Once anonymity is resented by many donor children who press for the right to know who their father is. Although shared custody after divorce/separation is law in Holland since January 1998, the High Court decided in a case that when serious and lasting disturbance of communication exist between the parents, shared custody is not possible. The feminist Clara Wichmann Institute which accompanied this case through all the courts, hailed the verdict as a victory. And for good reason: in principle every mother has but to stop communicating and hang on to itin order to get the custody all for herself, This very important body has acquired a greater independence within theof justice and is now only responsible to a secretary-general. Henceforth it has its own policy department. Policy is that difficult maintenance of visit ( = sabotage by the mother) is no reason for abolishing the visits. The Child Protection Office promised to look into the number of 40-50% fathers who loose their children. Mr. Zwetsloot, head of the policy department, stated in Utrecht on march 29, 2000 that the Child Protection Office is no longer concerned with divorce/separation but with mediation. "Since 1998 both parents keep custody, this implies contact". (???) Rob van Altena2. Platform
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