Mr Ralph Underwager
United States of America.
Dear Mr. Underwager;As promised to you during the second day of the conference "Child-protectors and clients" I send you a translation of a part of a report on visiting rights concerning my daugter Rosa.
The report was written by a social worker from the Child Protecing Service Zwolle (East Netherlands); mr.R.A.v.d. Werff. The part you receive is the final part. This report was regarded as to be "carefull and objective" by the court (primary and secondary judge).
I asked the director of the Child Protection Service East, mr Pasman, to give his comment on the translation. I did'nt hear anything from him, concerning this request.
The translation was made by an professional translator and regarded afterwards by a native English speaker.
However it seems to me to be correct to send you a copy of the Dutch original as well.
You are free to use parts of this copy and translation in the way you like. But if you do so I would like to hear about it. I anonimised the name of the mother.
If you should want to get more information about this case or about other cases in which I'm involved please contact me.
Dwaze vaders foundation (foolish fathers)
translation + original
Translation Report Child Protection Service
I guess father must be considered as a person who acts according to his own idea's and thinking. I do not think he's ready yet to fit in with the ideas of other people.
I got the impression he ignores the fact that a child has a need in its upbringing for attention to be paid to its own needs.
Well, he gives the impression of knowing exactly what Rosa needs.
In a way he does have ideas that would appeal to a child , like singing songs and cycling on a carrier tricycle with his daughter through town.
This however, seems to be more an answer to his own need to to be considered a progressive father rather then being something that would fit into a sensible education for Rosa.
Thus I think that a good arrangement of meetingtimes for Rosa and her father will only be possible when two pre-conditions have been met.
In the first place Rosa must be ready for it . In the second place father must be willing and be able to deal with her in a different way.
That means he must be willing to meet the pedagogical lines mother sets.
I think father will not be able to do this on his own. He would have to ask assistance himself by the regional mental health institute.
The parental access-arrangement between father and Rosa cannot be continued at the moment.At what term an arrangement for parental access will be possible is not foreseeable.
It is clear to me that it will not be a short time matter.
Mother will have to prove her responsibility as the most important person in Rosa's life.
With professional help she will have to work towards improvement.
When Rosa is ready to see her father again mother will have to take take the initiative in that direction.
Dear Mr. Zander:
Thank you for sending me the translation of part of the report concerning your visitation with your daughter. It is clear to me that are being victim-ized by the bias and the idiosyncratic value system of the social worker. The SW is clearly allied with the mother and is supporting the mother's hostility toward you. There is absolutely no basis in any scientific research data that can support the conclusion. In fact, the research evidence would suggest quite the contrary recommendation. Your daughter is being harmed by the actions of the SW and what she is doing constitutes emo-tional abuse of your child.
I am enclosing a copy of an article that appeared in American Heritage same years apo. It shows how the personal biases and the enmity of the first SWs was working then and that is the same thing you are hitting now. Give people power over others and they will use it to abuse and harm others, not help.
I am also enclosing a copy of a recent chapter we wrote which, while not directly applicable to your situation, nevertheless gives some information on how mental health professionals should go about what they do. I can only encourage you to continue to fight for your fatherhood and your child's life.
Ralph Underwager, Phd
On the background you hear me singing with my beloved Daughter when she was 4 years old.
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